She is facing the biggest case of inertia. He is obviously not the right person, he is oblivious to her needs. Yet she faces this hard truth as oblivious as he is towards her. Yes, people say you'd have to love yourself before someone can love you. And yes, you need time to get around and over some hard truths. But is a few weeks enough? Or months? Or years? She has subjected herself to this crazy relationship for more than 2 years now. Is it love? We doubt it. It has reached a point of total meltdown for herself and the friends around her.
Being depressed is one thing, but talking about your healing plans and not going ahead with them and instead, wallow in self-pity is unacceptable. She walked away in the middle of dinner last night because one of our friends said something too truthful about her inertia. It really is a drag for friends and even more frustrating when conversations are stifled, ideas hindered and weekends ruined by this wallowing self-pity.
We don't know. We are not experts ourselves. We have been through our fair share of self-pity and heartbreaks. Though, we have always tried to channel that excess energy into something more useful. Whether it is hanging out with friends and actually not wallowing in self-pity, or power window shopping (yes, this is hard for anyone to understand. We simply take long walks down shopping streets to absorb those new creative window displays), or enjoying our wines with friends, or blogging, or crafting, or painting, or focusing on our careers...etc.
In no time you will forget that you had even felt the hurt, and what is more rewarding, is that present you have worked hard for yourself.
NOTHING HAPPENS UNTIL SOMETHING MOVES. – Albert Einstein